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Martin Detwiler started the topic Week 10: Writing Life; Connecting with Local Writers (Brandon Miller) in the forum Weekly Theme Discussion 7 years ago
Posting Brandon’s discussion piece without any of my own comments because of the time. Apologies for getting this out so late. Good way to start a Tuesday morning, though! đ
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Even though I donât fit in with the introverted, agoraphobic, germaphobic writer stereotype (see Alex Rover from âNimâs Islandâ), I have to agree with them on one thing: People can be scary. Â That said, people can also be good friends. (Not as good friends as main characters or anything, but still, pretty good.) And good friends are usually willing to help you with your writing, if you ask them.
What Good are Friends?
Humans canât see our own flaws.  Itâs our nature. Weâre bound by a predisposed predisposition to get stuck in our own ruts.  We all have tunnel vision. We canât see things outside our original outline.(A second truth about humans is this: weâre really, really good at seeing each otherâs problems.  I mean seriously, really, really, good.  However, this post isnât about critiques⊠weâve had that one already.)
Anyway, a friend isnât bound by your tunnel vision, and can help you escape into the fresh air of freedom⊠and fantastic, well-developed, coherent novel ideas.
But People are ScaryâŠ
Creative community is amazing (@storyembers). Yeah, thatâs great, you say, but guys⊠other people.  Whether you just arenât comfortable around others, or you intimidated with the idea of having to walk into a group of locals you donât know and call them your âcommunityâ (much less having to call them all together and organize a community,) participating in a creative community can be a story changer.  (Literally, and figuratively.)Take the step
But take courage, itâs not actually as scary as all that.  We all have friends, some better than others. Chances are, some of us have already shared some of our writing with our close friends.  If you havenât, just give it a try. Your friends are you friends, after all.  Theyâre on your side.  Bring them into the know about your writing⊠and they become part of your creative community.Action is the key here.  I spent months fiddling around with the idea of organizing a critique group/brainstorming unit from some local writers I knew.  Of course, all I ever did was fiddle with the idea; I never actually got up the nerve to take steps to bringing people together.  That was kinda scary.
But then I got stuck.  Real stuck. I was about ten- thousand words into my manuscript and it wasnât working.  I knew I needed to rework my outline⊠but beyond that, I knew I needed fresh ideas. On an impulse, I called up one of those writer friends of mine and asked him if he had a minute.  After a quick explanation of my basic story and my problem, my friend started talking. Heâd say something, which would make something click in my head, then Iâd say âYeah, and if that thenâŠâ and when I hit another road block, he would start talking again.
My story got much better in a matter of minutes.
It wasnât a call I regretted.
Donât Turn Back, Give Back
I may not have realized it at the time, but Iâd just started a brainstorming community. Â All that time Iâd been thinking about it, and then, in a matter of minutes, it was done. I didnât have to schedule a big event, try to find a time that worked with a dozen different schedules, I didnât have to drive anywhere, and no one had to drive to come see me.Phones are wonderful things.
But creative communities must be fostered. Â You canât let them die; and I had no intention to. Â I was back within the week. âWhat do you think of this? Â Would this be more interesting, or this? Do you think thatâs enough for the scene, or should I add more?â Â The questions kept coming.
It never hurts to ask, is what I found. Â But it does cost. Even if itâs free for you, someone has to give their time and their creative energy to help you with your novel. Â How can you repay them? Well, itâs actually fairly simple. Just remember that to someone else, you are âsomeone elseâ. Â Repay the favor to your brainstorm buddy. Â Say whatever comes to mind as you answer their questions, thatâs your job. Â Youâre supposed to say the crazy stuff that they canât even think.
Keep it Going
Having someone to help you with your brainstorming is a fantastic blessing.  Nothing will help you develop a plot like a good friend. Keep asking questions, keep answering theirs.  Sure, people are scary sometimes⊠but theyâre also pretty great.(And really, really helpful.)
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