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Hello 🙂 Thought I’d add my own two cents to this question.

First off, MASSIVE question and I don’t think anyone can really understand all these nuances properly.

As @princess-foo and @the-inkspiller have said, marriage is meant to be an image of Christ and His Church and His utmost devotion to her.

I think God, in His omnipotence, knows who we will marry (if we marry) and in that way, I suppose He does have a specific person in mind for us, but I don’t think ‘soulmates’ are a thing. For two believers anyways, it’s a man and a woman who both sin, both mess up but have decided to work together as they live for God. Relationships like that aren’t (or shouldn’t be) built on butterfly feelings and ‘cosmic love’ but on God because God is the only person or thing who won’t disappoint us.

As @princessfoo pointed out, promising to stay by your husband/wife’s side for the rest of your life IS a massive deal. That’s a big dedication; you’re sharing life with that person for (hopefully) a long time. That takes a lot of patience and selflessness, no matter how much you love that person.

As for fulfilling emotional needs, I think that’s a portal to a whole other topic but very briefly: For believers, if God is the center of your life, then your dependence is on Him. Nobody and nothing else can bear that load. This relates to the whole idolatry thing; making someone else your idol (be that your husband or marriage or something else) leads to disappointment. So the fulfillment of emotional needs then, I think, should come from God.