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I have absolutely no remembrance of who said what after reading through all y’all’s interesting replies, so I’m just going to say what I remember saying and you can take it if it applied to what you said. Or if it didn’t. Whichever. I think I remember some things so I may tag a person twice if I remember who said it specifically.

First off, this has become my favorite topic I have ever been part of and thank y’all for being a part of it.

Second, I am not from the south, even though I use y’all.

I have been to the south before, and I was impressed about how polite people were down there. I have no idea if it’s truly a thing, and I don’t clearly remember what Wordsmith said about it, but it just seems to me that people are so much more polite and considerate down there than up where I live in Indiana.

@wordsmith You’re six foot one?!?! So. Not. Fair. I’m five foot one and probably not going anywhere. I’ve never appreciated being short, but the upside is that all you six foot people have to do things for me cause I’m too small. 😀

I’m probably going to jumble my words and backtrack and say things that contradict because I have a fuzzy idea of what I’m trying to say here and it may not come out right.

Guys can intimidate girls, but I don’t think in the way really like, they walk into the room and we just are afraid of them and want to get out of their way. I mean, actually, yes, there are a couple dudes I’ve seen in places that look absolutely mean and I would never want to cross, but that’s not what I mean. I think guys can, if they are trying too much to be ‘manly’ and macho, which I know some guys do, they can come across as too harsh and brash and not gentlemanly, and girls do not appreciate that.

There is a boy I know, not naming, that in my opinion acts a little too rough, and not just around girls, but everyone. I hesitate to be too critical here, but I get the impression that he tries too much to act tough, and therefore takes it too far. I’ve played games with him before, and he goes over the top with slamming and throwing, and etc. He knows we girls don’t like being treated like glass that will break, but I think he takes his equal heavy treatment too far.

That said, what is your opinion of how a guy should act towards a girl in a game? I mean, we play four square at our church, and there are a few guys who will slam the ball way out of range for another guy, but will gentle it up and give it easy to us girls. And we girls frankly don’t like that, but only within the bounds of the game. We understand, stepping into this game, that we are going to play hard, be played hard against, and we don’t want to be ‘babied’. Not that a gentleman shouldn’t be gentlemanly, but I would like him to play his hardest with me within the confines of that game. I have been hit very hard with a basketball various times by young men in games, and sometimes they don’t apologize, but within that game I don’t mind if they don’t, because I understand that it’s part of the game. You play your hardest and you can get hurt. It does sound odd, that I would think them rude and impolite if they whacked me not playing a game and didn’t apologize, but didn’t care as long as they were playing a game, but that’s how I’ve always seen it.

I’m five foot one, can’t really look mean if I try, and am a general clutz. But I also shoot a 12 gauge pretty well, do well with wrestling with girlfriends occasionally, and can climb a tree faster than my older brother. I grew up between two brothers, so for a girl you’d probably say I’m pretty ‘tough’. I’m definitely not the make up applying phone using Instagram-able girl of today. But I don’t try to be a ‘manly girl’ or show up boys because I want to prove I’m not intimidated by them.

Your thoughts?

On the topic of dances…

I have always wanted to go to a dance. Always. Like, since I knew what dancing was. I know several people who would not dance with a guy they weren’t at least courting, but I would not have a problem IF it was at a dance like you have described – one where manners and ways of politeness and gentlemanly conduct that have unfortunately been forgotten are promoted. I would never go to a dance like they have nowadays at parties that are highly inappropriate and immoral. But a real dance would be amazing. I very much love seeing boys behaving like gentleman, and I have some friends who have been dancing, and I would love love love to go to one one day. Plus I think it’s useful in showing boys that girls are not fragile weird things never to be approached.

My friend recently worked at the State Fair and went to a youth conference before hand. I knew they were going to be taught Square Dancing and Folk Dances, so I asked her how it went. She said it was good, but her partner was a jerk. He talked rudely and pushed her none too gently when the dance require only a small push. And that made me a little mad. Boys, if you have in some way become a girls partner, for an evening, a dance, whatever, it is so rude and inconsiderate to spoil it for her by being a jerk. BE A GENTLEMAN!

I have no idea, honestly, about whether or not the guy or girl should initiate the handshake, just because I don’t usually shake guys hands. When I’m introduced to one, I extend my hand and they take it. I honestly have no idea if that is proper.

I’m actually going to go home and look in a book I have, some etiquette book my friend got me. She got it because it was old and cool looking and didn’t really expect me to read it. I want to look up some of the things we’ve been discussing and see what it says. I have no idea if it holds a Biblical standpoint or not.

@wordsmith @ericawordsmith I have to say, I know chivalry is still alive, it just seems to be drowning out in the wash of ungodly people, so it encourages me so much when I see your stories and convictions.

I’m only sixteen years old, and I have had some very unpleasant experiences with young men, total strangers, who thought it was okay to act inappropriate and wrong with a girl they’d never met. A guy rode by me on the sidewalk and offered me a ride home, grinning and gesturing very rudely. A guy who I am sure was drunk yelled very inappropriate things at me when I was walking past a restaurant. And these situations have frustrated me to no end because I hate seeing the lack of chivalry and even basic manners in people these days. The fact that a boy would look at a girl he’s never seen before, decide he ‘liked her’ because of her face or whatever, and deem it okay to be rude and inappropriate is horrible.

But this thread has encouraged me so much of the fact that chivalry still is out there.

@ericawordsmith I think you were the one that asked this? Yes, my name is a mashup of AoGG and LotR. I am very much like Anne and love the books to the point that one of my closest friends calls me ‘Anne’. Then in my alter personality, I live in Lothlorien, so I put them together for my internet name.

@wordsmith Yes, I’ve been hoping someday I can meet y’all. I plan on tailing Hope to a staff meeting one of these days if Josiah will let me. She and I go to the same church, so it’d be easily arranged. I think we should petition our great leaders to organize a conference for SE people!!! That’d be amazing!!!

@ericawordsmith – Yes, I have read the Millie Keith books!!! I started the Elsie Dinsmore books and was soooo bored that I stopped. Then my friend let me borrow the Millie Keith books and I read them through without realizing it was the same author, and I was shocked when I found out! I love the Millie Keith books. I own the first and really want to the rest of the collection. I have only read the updated version, not the original, but hopefully it’s close to the originals. LOVE THEM!!!

@wordsmith I can’t take normal medicine because I haven’t been able to learn how to swallow pills. But I also just don’t take medicine for things. I don’t know why, because sometimes I’m in pain, but I just don’t. I will mix the spice ginger into water if I get a migraine. Those are the only things severe enough to get me to take medicine. I have vision loss, hallucinations, and major pain, so I will take ginger water for that.

Um, random question, but do you have a suggestion of something natural for stomach cramps and aches?

Okay, so hopefully I can be back here Saturday night, but all my mom’s sisters and her parents and their families are coming for a birthday party this weekend, so I’ll be pretty busy. I don’t have internet normally, like in my house, so I might be able to com eon here while at my grandparents house on Saturday. That is the worst part of no internet at home. Not being able to be on here.

Till then!