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@erynne

I know what you mean and you are absolutely right, everyone deals with grief differently. Here are some good examples of behaviors of mourning that I can relate to some of these. I lost 7 family friends in the past 2 years, and I grieved differently for each of them.

1. Balling your eyes out

2. Silence and isolation, trying to remember every memory of the deceased person from the past and dwelling on that past as long as possible while aggressively trying to avoid the present.

3. Hyperventilating/struggling to breathe.

4. The pain in the chest like the heart is literally ripping itself a part. In an extreme case of pain from loss, I knew one person who literally lost the will to live and died of a heart attack or something cardiac related shortly after their spouse died. I think one of the best movie examples is Padmé from star wars. As soon as she gave birth, she died from the unmeasurable pain she felt because her body on a physical level could no longer continue to function.

5. Physical release of anger like pounding or stomping something.

6. Screaming out to God why does it have to be this way? Why is this being so unfair?

7. Going to berserk and taking it out on someone.

8. Panic/anxiety attacks.

9. Worst option to commit suicide because the person can’t possibly imagine how to live on without the person they lost. This is usually connected when they feel their heart was literally tearing itself apart. I know 2 people growing up that did this.

These are all examples I will use in my story. I already have used some in my first chapter you will notice when you get a chance to read it. I hope these examples help. I often have to use sad music when I am writing a sad scene. When I wrote the sad scene in my first chapter where I hope to make the reader feel the emotional pain and possibly somewhat mourn the horrible tragedy that occurred with the characters. I listened to “Hymn of Eternity” by Peter Roe during the whole time I was writing out the scene. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1wke3RTKcE Some of my beta readers began to look at me like what is going on in your head after they read it. XD It is not exactly depressing but sobering and powerful at least for me it was. It also helped me mold my thoughts to imagining the pain and loss but in a controlled way.