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@anne-of-lothlorien Yeah I think my computer was being stupid and not posting it… so whatever. It’s up now.

Also, your version of prom sounds far better than the public school version 😛

Also also, I like your new profile pic 🙂

For a feminine form of chivalry, I agree with you – I don’t think that there exactly is one. What I was more looking for was the feminine counterpart. Whereas guys are supposed to be chivalrous, what are girls supposed to be? And I think the Pro. 31 Woman does kind of sum that up. Ladylike. And I guess the way I can best explain the strong female character is she has to have strong character.

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On Dead Fish, Introductions, and Youth Group Interactions

@ericawordsmith My family calls the “Limp Biscuit Handshake” the “Dead Fish Handshake”. And it drives me up the wall, too, whether from a guy or a girl. There are so many old ladies in my church that do it… it’s just…. *ugh*. But I’ve been raised in a household where the handshake means a lot. All my brothers wrestle, and my dad wrestled, so to them, a strong handshake is important. It’s the first impression you give on the mat. And although I don’t wrestle, that’s been impressed on me, and I judge people on their handshakes. To me, in normal life, it’s not so much about asserting dominance or gentleness, it’s a display of personality. A weak handshake indicates a weak person (for the most part), and a strong handshake indicates strength in leadership or whatever (again, not always, but for the most part).

@wordsmith I’m not in any way a master of etiquette (in fact, I’m probably the opposite of that). So while it may be proper etiquette for the girl to initiate the handshake, the way I’ve been raised that would be opposite of proper. The guy should be the initiator, the girl pursues after he initiates.

That being said, I’m all for the Jane Austen-era introductions, where you have to be introduced by a mutual friend or the host. For one, because that makes life easier for awkward introverts like myself. And for two, that makes it so it doesn’t seem like I’m initiating the relationship between myself and a guy. Again – guy initiates, then girl pursues.

As for youth group interactions, the kids in my youth group don’t shake hands. Like, ever. The only instance would be during the greeting time at church, but we don’t really sit by each other, so it’s not an issue. As a non-touchy/feely person with a large personal bubble, I actually really appreciate handshakes, because that means you don’t have to hug the person.

Well, I have no clue if any of that makes good sense or not. But I gotta go.

Cheerio 🙂