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@noahlitle yep. Femininity is an attitude; a state of the heart. It’s not ultimately about jobs or clothes or anything external. Just like we don’t consider single fathers ‘effeminate’ for being both provider and nurturer for his kids, it’s possible for a woman to do manly things and still be feminine. Sometimes life forces you into situations you can’t control and you have to do what you have to do, regardless of your ‘role’— sometimes you can’t help that. But you can help the state of your heart.

A character I haven’t written yet is like that. Her father was a councilman, and when he died the place passed to her, as it was hereditary and she was his only child. She’s the only woman in the council, and the job she’s doing— representing her corner of the country, legislating, giving orders and managing resources, etc.— is a very masculine-coded job. But to her it’s just a job. She doesn’t measure her identity against her ability to do it ‘as well as a man’. If the job gets done, the job gets done. (She’s also an ESTJ, and very practical :P) It doesn’t leave her with much time for feminine coded things, but her heart is right. She likes pretty dresses as well as most girls. She enjoys putting her hair up when she has the chance. But most importantly she looks on the world with a woman’s eyes. She’s not bent on proving anything. She’s confident in who she is as the woman God made her, and despite the pressure, disgust, and disdain from the men around her who don’t believe she can do an adequate job, her first thought is for God’s service.

That’s the thing. Where the heart is with God. Feminism is a spiritual disease because it takes the focus from God and puts it on man’s completely inadequate and always-changing standard of perfection.