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Okay, so I said I would come back with what I’d gleaned from the etiquette book, just for conversation, and I had it written out in a doc, but apparnatly it didn’t save. So… I’ll have to write it out again and come back with it next week.

But I do remember this which I wanted to add.

In the book they give many examples of the everyday things a guy does for a girl. He holds her arm across a busy street or dangerous road, down steep hills, to assist her in seeking shelter from a downpour. If they come to a puddle, he steps over first and helps her. He assists her into the car, then gets out first and helps her out. He does not sit until she’s seated. He gives up a seat on the bus for her. And I really wish we did more of that today! I mean, now that we don’t, it may be seen as weird to hold a girl’s arms across a busy street, but it’s just basic politeness! It used to be done all the time, even between total strangers!

And another line in the book pointed out the good reception manners receive. Which is so true.

When a guy is polite, it makes a girl feel good. Boys, you may think we don’t notice it, we really, really do. And we appreciate it. A lot. It makes us feel like true ladies, like the special creations God made us to be.

When a guy is inappropriate or rude, it does not make me feel special. It makes me feel like an object, a thing that a guy could look at or treat however he wants. Which is why chivalry and just plain politeness is so, so, so I cannot express how so much appreciated by myself.

Speaking of which, I have actually just started seeing more random instances of boys being gentlemanly ever since we started this thread… funny how that works, huh? 😀

I was coming out of the Dollar General and crossing the lot to the car. Three boys on skateboards came up in my path, and I stopped, and two of them blew past, but the last in line screeched his to a halt, and motioned for me to pass. And simple and seemingly meaningless as it is, it was a sign that he recognized true manners, and that was great.