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ALRIGHT, GUYS, IT’S STORY TIME. And don’t worry, for once, one of my General Writing Discussions threads actually happens to be about writing. But also, not. You’ll see for yourself, if you dig in to yet another one of my complicated writing questions that is likely based on a theological issue I don’t quite understand yet.

Today’s Topic: True Love!

Alright, so, here’s the shebang. I don’t really understand romantic love. This, by default, makes it difficult for me to convey a fulfilling romance in any of my stories – because I just don’t get it, for a lot of reasons which I hope to convey here. One being, does God have a specific person in mind for us? And the second being, if He doesn’t, then is there anything special about romantic love at all aside from the promise to stay by your husband/wife’s side for the rest of your lives? And if He does have a specific person in mind, then what if we fall in love with and marry the wrong person?

Oof. I feel like Anna from Frozen.

*le cry*

The reason why I ask is this: There are something in me that wants to believe that romance is a wonderful, beautiful thing. If that is the case, then I want other people to know too, you know??? I want people to know that there is more than physical attraction and philandering and just, getting your heart broken over and over, or using another person to meet all your emotional or physical needs. I feel like there is so much of that everywhere, where people just use people to fill a need. It seems like that’s what people think romance is.

And like, I’ve even read writing advice that says the same – make your characters each have something the other craves. E.g., if Girl is treated like a child, then maybe Boy doesn’t and it satisfies her emotional needs. And if Boy feel unloved and rejected, Girl loves him and therefore satisfies his emotional needs. But we shouldn’t use romance to fill emotional gaps, right? Or should we? Ugh, I’m so confused.

So. If that’s not what romance is, then what is it? What is the point of romance?

Because I feel like we all know that the above isn’t what romance is supposed to be like, but we don’t know what the dickens it is supposed to be like.

So yeah. I want to write a romantic story that reflects the beauty of romance and the purpose of it (if, indeed, it has a purpose) rather than just giving something to emotionally satisfy the reader. I’m tired of people using romance as wish-fulfillment.

Aight, I’m through with my rant. xD Insight would be extremely helpful!