May 3, 2019 at 7:46 pm #88493Buddy J.@wordsmith
Oh my… I’m so sorry you had to go through those things. And I’m glad life isn’t so depressing as it might have seemed. It’s still tough though. Thank you for your comments.
Published author, student in writing, works with HazelGracePress.comMay 4, 2019 at 10:25 am #88559Anne of Lothlorien@anne-of-lothlorien
@eden-anderson That’s okay! You’re right, they’ve got me covered. 🙂 That’s something you can always count on here.
@sarah-inkdragon Oh, wow, thank you for all that.
I did know about triggers. For her one trigger is actually walking alone outside, because she was walking back to her apartment when the explosion happened, and she lost her family, so walking alone always makes her feel like something is going to happen.
Thanks for all the information! This is awesome.
I'm short, I like words, and I love people.
No, I didn't draw my profile pic.May 4, 2019 at 11:00 am #88562Aislinn Mollisong@aislinn-mollisong
@kari-karast Really, I only know how to write Aislinn and Kayden because of my own stuff, and I don’t know if it would help anyone else. I don’t have normal PTSD anyway. -shrugs- Totally going to use stuff on this page though.
Hero with an overactive imaginationMay 4, 2019 at 2:41 pm #88578Eden Anderson@eden-anderson
@anne-of-lothlorien Yeah, very true! It’s awesome. 😄
"But how could you live and have no story to tell?" - Fyodor DostoyevskyMay 5, 2019 at 11:23 am #88621
@anne-of-lothlorien My friend wrote back and said:
“That’s wonderful that your friend is an author. I truly hope her books turns out well but I actually feel rather uncomfortable talking about my PTSD. Every time I do I have to relive the trauma and it’s not enjoyable. Sorry girl!”
So there ya go. I sooo understand triggers and some other symptoms of PTSD, but I dont really like trying to explain it. Sounds like you already got some great advise!
"No matter how much it hurts, how dark it gets, or how hard you fall, you are never out of the fight."May 6, 2019 at 11:01 am #88708Anne of Lothlorien@anne-of-lothlorien
@ashira – That is totally okay! Tell her thanks for thinking about it anyways.
I'm short, I like words, and I love people.
No, I didn't draw my profile pic.May 6, 2019 at 12:35 pm #88724
@anne-of-lothlorien Okay. 😀
"No matter how much it hurts, how dark it gets, or how hard you fall, you are never out of the fight."May 6, 2019 at 3:13 pm #88746EricaWordsmith@ericawordsmith
O.K. I have a couple of things to add, although everyone has done a great job answering, so I’m not sure if this is really helpful or not… oh well. XD
So, about four years ago my dad was a bee keeper. He was really enjoying getting into it and it was really a neat hobby. One thing being a bee keeper means is that you will be stung. There’s just no avoiding it. When you consider your bee suit you don’t say will I get stung, you say where do I want to be stung. Well, one day he went out to a hive without a suit on. Some people don’t use a suit at all and it’s ridiculous in my mind. Anyway, he had been stung many times before and had no problem, but this time he got stung in the chest, ran back to the house, and was fine when he came in. Ten minutes later he was having violent symptoms, vomiting, loosing vision, he could barely move. In the end we discovered that he is deathly allergic to bee stings. He decided to give immunotherapy a shot, but whether or not it was working we didn’t know until he got stung again. In which he was riding in an ambulance thinking that he was about to die.
So, after all that, he began to have panic attacks. Now let it be said that my dad is not a wimp in the least, he grew up as a redneck in East Texas, and some of his stories have us going, oh man, daddy… But for some reason he started having panic attacks that would cause him to feel like he was going into a reaction again. Things like his left side would go numb or his heart would start racing really bad, things like that. I know driving for a while was really scary because sometimes the thought of him getting into a reaction while at the wheel was terrifying. One day he had an attack (which was right after the reaction so he thought it was a delayed reaction) that had him pulling off the road because he thought he was going to pass out. This was several years ago now, and he’s over it, but it was something that he went through.
I guess maybe my idea is that 1. Panic attacks/PTSD isn’t for weak and cowardly people as we might originally think. I think that was sort of our idea for a while until my dad realized that it wasn’t a mental weakness, it was a physical reaction to something triggering that reaction. I think even subconsciously our brain can train itself to send our bodies into reaction. This may be more on the PA side of things, but I think it could help in writing. 2. It takes time to retrain your brain. In these things that we might think are easy to just “get over” it’s not so simple. I’d have to understand it a little better to give specifics, this is not entirely something I really have spent much time understanding or writing, but those are my two thoughts. 🙂
I have a character that I’m working on who doesn’t really have PTSD, but he has a lot of flashbacks to when his abusive dad left him and his mom. His life goal is pretty much to protect other people from people like his dad who might hurt them. Every time he sees people hurting other people/certain things people might say to him will cause him to lock up into his own memories pretty much. Somewhere in the book he accidentally kills three fellow students and after that he alienates himself from his friends entirely because he’s devastated that he believes he’s become the monster that his dad was. Closing up like a clam, feeling tortured by his own mind, and in this case, beating himself up pretty bad titling himself things like monster, killer, bad guy, dangerous, not safe, etc. Not quite panic attacks, but he’s definitely not whole. I don’t know if any of that was helpful…
Also, another thought is asking yourself what your character is willing to do to deal with the pain. In my opinion, generally people end up hurting themselves more as they look for a way to help themselves deal with things like that.
Oh my word… I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine what that’s like. I love my siblings so much, I know losing one is one of them would break my heart.
Tek an ohta! Tek an cala!May 6, 2019 at 9:19 pm #88821
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