@theresa-play. Hi! I had a similar situation when I came up with one of my characters. I wanted her to be strong, but not one of “those girls”. I agree with @jenwriter17. For my girl, I had plenty of strong boy characters that were a lot stronger then her. She would be a whole lot stronger then say, me, but still smaller then and weaker then her younger brother. (Which kind of annoys her) Her partner is also a boy who is much stronger then her. He recognizes that she is strong and smart, but still takes it upon himself to protect her. (No! Just friends! 😉) So, strong but not compared to the boys. And you do have to add some weaknesses too sometimes. Like, does she think of herself as strong or weak? OK, I hope that helps a little.
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