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What exactly do you mean by this? (just curious). I would just like to say, once again, though, that the way men or women act or what they like to play, or watch, or write, or read, or what work or hobbies they have, really has little to do with what defines men and women–and by little, I mean practically none. If you are interested or like all things that are typically associated with men, then great, that makes you no less womanly. Now, having said that, I should mention that certain behavior of men may not be appropriate for women, but those things would be very specific and related to the roles of men and women according to the bible.

I mean how people can perceive it, how femininity or masculinity is “presented”. People are always like “you don’t LOOK like you have X” like ARE YOU IN MY HEADSPACE???? THEN I GUESS YOU’LL JUST HAVE TO TAKE MY WORD FOR IT OR DECIDE NOT TO!!!!

Like women can be caretakers but also be like the big bulky showoff who likes smashing stuff lol. That doesn’t mean she ISN’T a caretaker that just means she “expresses” it differently. And I… actually thought I’d have to fight to keep that point…a lot of conservative groups really hold to the “traditional” social “roles” of femininity and masculinity…

I’m actually really surprised and happy that we actually agree that the way men/women act, like to play, watch, write or read etc has little – practically nothing, to do with what defines them as men and women.

So “express” kinda to me meant “outward appearances that people interpret as X” but I absolutely agree with your stance here, it’s something I’ve been trying to confront anywhere I bump into the “fit your gender role” whatever.

One other thing in regard to this: “effeminate” does not mean a man who doesn’t like guns and blunt talk, and instead likes the color pink, curling up on the couch, and doing something aristy. Those things are not what define men. Effiminate, according to the bible, is directly referecing homosexuality/sodomy, nothing more, nothing less. You also wondered if the bible referenced the opposite of effiminate–essentially, what people now call lesbians. Yes it does, in two ways: one, it obviously states that two members of the same sex are not to join in marriage (marriage is defined by a male and a female joining together in one body), and two, the Proverbs 31 and Titus 2 woman’s qualities are shown. Thus, if someone is nothing like that, then they are not acting with a proper degree of womanality–and again, that has nothing to do with their hobbies or social behavior.

Oh that’s interesting! I read all these verses on homosexuality but I hadn’t actually connected the “effeminate” to “homosexual actions”, that makes sense. I’ll probably have to check up on a couple different translations to get a clearer idea of the meaning of word in all its nuances, just coz I work like that, but it sounds legit!

Good points (on the door opening thing particularly). I should have clarified that I do think that men doing gentemanly things like opening doors and giving up seats is to be commended, and does exmplefiy the chivarous trait of protecting and sheltering women.


So, I hope you’re speaking of a school/college enviroment, because if the young men who you hang out with act in such a way that you feel the need to assert dominance or else be bullied, I would strongly suggest you disassociate yourself with those men. Sorry if that comes off blunt, but if the guys consider themselves a ‘pack’ and treat you like a very easily bullied weak girl, then they are the antithesis of good company. Needing to asserting dominance is almost never a good thing unless in very specific, probably dangerous or dire situations.

No thank you for being blunt, blunt is way better than subtly manipulat…blunt’s good! Thanks <3

I’m probably exaggerating tbh, I’ve just always been super paranoid and hyper alert, my parents had really bad experiences at my age and are really protective and so I’m just constantly in the habit of expecting the worst first. And like we live right next door to a registered sex-offender and I’m easily triggered, like even stuff you’ve said has triggered me and I know you’re cool!

I don’t willingly hang out with anybody who makes me feel insecure like that, it’s good.

I’ve actually be stunned a little by how wholesome everyone is on SE and how safe I feel here. Thanks, it… means a lot to me that you want me to be safe… *hugs*

Again, if the men around you make you feel like that, or put you positions that make you feel as if you need to dominate them, I would be avoiding them completley.

LOL buddy that’s the every day life of a gal, there’s always one anywhere you go! A lot girls’ small-talk is exchanging advice on repelling pervs. Why do you think we never go to public restrooms alone?

Do guys ever always get that “never go to the bathrooms alone” rule too?

Wonderful! Such a joyous feeling, being alive. 🙂 So you’re in full fledged college? Campus, dorms, etc? What degree are you going for?

It feels a lot better than being a zombie! 😊 I’d much rather beat zombies with a nailed bat than BE a zombie. 😊

Oh yeah, but most of my classes have been online, I can’t do that anymore tho and that’s really bad coz both my parents have health problems that make driving not that great and nobody’s taught me to drive yet 😑

I’m going for an associates in my graphic design and it’s been awesome so far!! Except I have to take InDesign twice…😒 lol

Nice. I have a love-hate relationship with rap. I have a high level of admiraiton for those who can perform it, but it is also arguabley my most disliked version of music.

I am currently in a “MUST COLLECT THEM ALL” phase for every genre of singing styles. I typically like songs with rap pieces but not the whole song rapping, but I’ve warmed up more to rap singing it! Next I gotta acquire the heavy metal “monster”-voice (you know what I’m talking about 😉) and a buncha interesting inflections different singers have too!

Having said that, if you came up to me and rapped an introduction, that would be absolutely amazing.

This motivated me to try to memorize that rap piece in Enemy by Imagine Dragons whilst waiting for my class to start, which class I missed because my internet decided to stab itself repeatedly to mess with me.

Anyway. This is as fast as I can rap for now: pretend it’s an introduction😉

Well, let’s see here. My antipathy for college economics is growing by the second, I recently sold a few lambs, and accidently gave someone a ram instead of a ewe and that needs fixing, youtube keeps toying with me in a most draconian manner, and I just recovered from a rather annoying sickness.


Agreeeeed with economics tho, I don’t have my academics until a few more semesters tho so I am happy ;P

It’s very bad to give someone a ram not an ewe *pats on back* very stupid mistake.


Ok but yeah, that stinks. Having so much you COULD do if only *gestures indignantly at life*

Well, don’t get sick again <3 (I hope you’re feeling better now!)

So fantastic. 🙂

The added layers of sass and sarcasm with the smiley emoji. It’s beautiful… 😑👌/✌️😝

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